Monthly Archives: September 2016

How to Build Bridges in Business and in Life

My Grandpa was a cabbage and lettuce farmer and for many years as a young curious girl,  I watched  him work and helped him harvest the crops. There is nothing else he would have rather done. It was in his bones.  I asked him one day if  I could take a turn driving  ‘Ole Blue’ as he called his rusty and reliable tractor.   He responded, “Have you been paying attention?  Yes Sir.”IMG_0032

Pulling his hankerchief from his pocket, he wiped the sweat off his brow, stepped down and said,  “Well, get up there and give it a go.”

 Like my Grandpa, many of us  feel driven by a purpose or calling- to start our own business,  become a life coach, create a blog,  write a book,  or get healthy.  Or perhaps even wish to master the art of staying calm under pressure. Yep, a few of these are on my list too.  So, how do we do this and meet with success?  

There are four key factors in building  bridges and accomplishing our goals: 

1.  Know the leaders/competitors 

Seek out and study those in the industry  and in life who have thrown themselves In the Arena and become champions in their field. What skill sets, resources and connections do they possess?

2.  Be their customer/follower

Listen to their story. Pay attention to the characteristics and behaviors of those you wish to emulate. Demonstrate loyalty to their product and service and reciprocity is sure to follow.

3.  Be their partner

True leaders want to see and help others succeed. What will your contributions be in this relationship? How can you help build them up? 

4.  Create your own niche

Be authentically You.  Focus on your unique talents, skills, traits and passions . This is one of the most important tools needed in building bridges in both our professional and personal lives.

Here are a few of the leaders in their respective industries that I follow and partner with who encourage, motivate and greatly inspire me to  step  In the Arena  in accomplishing my goals and reaching my dreams.

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*Steven Pressfield author of The War of Art, Turning Pro and The Legend of Bagger Vance- made into a major motion film starring Will Smith and Matt Damon.  Pressfield   offers invaluable wisdom  and great insight on  beating Resistance often disguised as our Muse.

*David Scott Mann– 

Founder of Lead Strong  leadership coaching, author, real estate investor , mentor and veteran- Lt. Colonel(ret), Army Special Forces Green Beret.  Scott’s expertise and skills extend well beyond the battlefield; training others to connect, succeed  and leave deep tracks  in this world through the power of storytelling. An Elite Leader like no other.

*Danny Ray Jr.–  Contributing writer- Life Hack,  and creator of  Dream Big, Dream Often .   Danny is a visionary  and community leader both on and offline with a seemingly inexhaustible reserve for helping others recognize and reach their dreams. A dedicated servant and advocate for those whose lives have been impacted by Multiple Scerlosis. The world could use a few more Danny’s.


“Pay attention and give it a go”  Grandpa 



Room 3

I found myself in a gorgeous hospital gown last evening enjoying my large suite and gazing adoringly upward at the beautiful flower(yep, that was the morphine talking). 

About twenty minutes into my Staycation, Paramedics brought in a gentleman probably in his early 50’s suffering from chest pains- they placed him in the room next to mine. After the doctor looked him over, his family shuffled in eagerly waiting to wrap their arms around him.

It’s amazing when you’re all hooked up and doped up how keen your  senses become-ahmmm… hearing.

No, I wasn’t eavesdropping they were talking loudly and the curtain to my suite was wide open.

This family spoke lovingly to him and laughter was abound.

And then a few moments later…

“I NEED HELP” as he went into what appeared to be cardiac arrest. A nurses assistant quickly escorted the mother and patient’s elderly father back to the waiting room as the mother cried out “WHY?”

The ER doctor on duty and several others ran to his aide putting forth every bit of effort, training and skills to bring him back to life… to no avail.

While this post has a somber tone, I write it as a wonderful reminder to myself and for others:

-There will always be someone who has it worse off than you.

Count your blessings. 

-Find something beautiful everywhere you go-See

-Enjoy the laughter that fills a room-Hear

-Savor the flavor of homemade family recipes-Taste

-Breathe in fresh air-Smell

May the gentleman in room-3 feel the love of his family and God’s arms surrounding him.

To his family… I offer my thoughts, prayers and appreciation for Life!

To the ER staff~ I applaud you for your courage, compassion and resiliency you bring to every time card you punch.

May God Bless you all.

Molon Labe

  The young Spartan woman battled with disregard of cost
  She fought valiantly for love and suffered heavy loss
He was her King though she knew he could not stay
Leonidas  journeyed on to fight another day
Molon Labe
He fought for town and country and all that was right and just
Foregoing his own desires; his duty was a must.


Nery a word was spoken as she greeted him at the door
The King’s heart and mind were heavy from the toils of the war
Molon Labe
Peace came unto him when he laid down in her arms
For he knew his Spartan Lady would never  do him  harm
His lady knew the sacrifice that she would have to make 
It bear a striking resemblance of the task he now faced
Molon Labe
She fought for town and country and all that was right and just
Foregoing her own desires; her duty was a must.