I’m So Afraid
I’m so afraid my parents won’t agree with my decision to move-
This is part of the conversation I recently had over lunch with a former student. This young lady has her act together and knows what she wants and is letting fear of judgment stand in her way.
NEWSFLASH… PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU
We talked about the pros & cons and how she could best communicate her decision to her folks to whom she greatly admires and respects. Her parents don’t have to agree with her decision and she understands that she very well may be judged by family and others- and that’s ok as long as she is true to who she is and pursues her aspirations with vigor.
Some of the things I’ve been judged for…
- my patriotic values
- physical appearance
- advocacy work for vets
- how I parent my children
- my personal dream
- and on it goes…
Often without conscious and malicious intent, people will make harsh and insensitive statements, judgments about all things large and small from ones political leanings, to clothing styles. It is part of human nature and partially based on our own personal experiences.
The greatest judgment one needs to make is the reflection you see in the mirror. Surround yourself with those who support you, who will help you grow and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.
It’s ok, to be nervous or afraid in starting a new adventure – just don’t allow fear of judgment by others dictate or determine who you are. Only you can choose to create the person you want to be.