I always enjoy Kerri’s heartfelt words.
The jury is still out though on her relationship with the fish 😉 LOL
When the universe hears your cry and energy has been left inside,being heard is beyond words. Kerri Elizabeth Talking through what’s inside you. And being loved all the way through. Is a gift you give to more than you. When hearing is a place you give grace. When listening is a space where safety […]
via Being Heard Is Beyond Words — Sunshine Project
In Steven Pressfield’s book The War of Art, the central theme throughout is how to identify, understand and beat the beast of Resistance that is ever present in all of us. It wears many masks-it is fear-procrastination-victimhood-self doubt-love-rationalization. Resistance has one goal- Win! Thank you In Momma’s View for suggesting I participate. I’d rather not nominate anyone specific just hop in and share a quote that really resonates with you. 🙂
Seek first to understand then to be understood
“Can you really afford to go on vacation with the kids with all your bills and such?” says a well-intentioned friend.
My first thought was to respond with- “Well, it’s really none of your business”- however, this was a perfect opportunity to create a touchpoint with someone.
A few years ago, I made a commitment to myself and my kids that each year, I would take them on a family vacation. As a divorced Momma, with two kids and yes, some financial strains brought about over the last two years from my son’s medical condition and surgery- has required that I sacrifice in some areas of my life & work my tail off to save and honor this promise.
Are there other areas in my life in which I have dropped the commitment ball and failed to show up… Yep… I’m sure of it.
It really boils down to what our true priorities in life are and what we CHOOSE to commit to. For some, it may be living a super healthy lifestyle|financial wealth|relationship with spouse or rescuing injured animals.
Ever see the movie Family Vacation? Clark Griswold was ALL in- albeit with a few bumps in the road-when it came to getting his family across country for good times at Wally World!
There is no room for passivity or complacency for those who are truly committed to change, growth and accomplishing their goals.
I value this precious and fleeting time with my kiddos. As the years pass on and they get older, I hope that they too will come to understand that not everything will be handed to them- I must step aside- allow them to struggle, commit and work for what they want.
Time spent with those you love and care about is one of the greatest gifts of all.
“Can you really afford to go on vacation with the kids?”
I can’t afford not to.
I’m so afraid my parents won’t agree with my decision to move-
This is part of the conversation I recently had over lunch with a former student. This young lady has her act together and knows what she wants and is letting fear of judgment stand in her way.
NEWSFLASH… PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU
We talked about the pros & cons and how she could best communicate her decision to her folks to whom she greatly admires and respects. Her parents don’t have to agree with her decision and she understands that she very well may be judged by family and others- and that’s ok as long as she is true to who she is and pursues her aspirations with vigor.
Some of the things I’ve been judged for…
- my patriotic values
- physical appearance
- advocacy work for vets
- how I parent my children
- my personal dream
- and on it goes…
Often without conscious and malicious intent, people will make harsh and insensitive statements, judgments about all things large and small from ones political leanings, to clothing styles. It is part of human nature and partially based on our own personal experiences.
The greatest judgment one needs to make is the reflection you see in the mirror. Surround yourself with those who support you, who will help you grow and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.
It’s ok, to be nervous or afraid in starting a new adventure – just don’t allow fear of judgment by others dictate or determine who you are. Only you can choose to create the person you want to be.