An Ethic of Care

This was the central focus of my college essay titled Philosophy of Teaching.  While completing my final internship at the same middle school I attended as a student, my college professor said, “You must know Why you’re going into this profession and How will you accomplish it.”  Have you ever had such a “hit you in the gut” question asked of you before?  This was certainly one of those for me.  Once I started writing, I realized exactly Why I wanted to teach and help kids.

I want every child to know they aren’t alone and that someone cares.

Not until I reached high school, did I feel that a teacher really saw Me as a person and not just a student number and another test to grade.  One teacher that made the effort to connect with me and cared enough to know who I was and wanted to be.  My sweet, sweet Math teacher would allow me to eat lunch in her room sometimes.  She sensed that I wasn’t comfortable among the crowd of other kids. She listened, she asked questions, she paid attention… Eventually,  she gave me the courage  to join a club that worked with younger kids.  This amazing  teacher saw something that I didn’t see in myself at the time; that I loved helping other people and had a nurturing way about me.  I eventually became  president of the FEA(Future Educators of America) Club. It was then, I knew I wanted to teach and/or be a Psychologist.  If it hadn’t been for her, I don’t think I ever would have made it through college.  I saw her sweet, caring face in every struggle that came my way and I carried on.

to the world you may just one person quote

Thank you, Mrs. Spaulding

As I reflect on my 20 years in the classroom now, my Philosophy of Teaching  essay still rings true.  Anyone who works with children must possess an ethic of care. This is not one that simply cares that a student passes your tests and the class or adheres to every rule you put forth but rather one that lays a foundation that fosters trusting relationships in which children can achieve both academically and personally throughout their lifetime.  My philosophy on teaching?  Teach the whole child; get to know the whole person.  Spend time developing trusting relationships where they feel safe, heard,  encouraged, and inspired.  Peak their curiosity. Go to their awards ceremonies and cheer for them at their games(even when you’re tired). Sometimes, you may be the only one. Remind them that you will always be there for them as they embark upon their own journeys in life.


One of my friends recently said, “Teaching is a thankless job.”  Those “thank you’s” may not come  immediately but they do  come in small and beautiful ways-sometimes years later when they invite you to  lunch or their college graduation.


University of Miami graduate-now off to med school.  So proud of you! 🙂


  • Can totally relate to this post, I have worked in many áreas of psychology, but a few years back I worked for the goverment at a Child’s Orphanage, although I admit it was heart breaking at times,it has been one of the most rewarding moments of my career, I love to help and guide any person who comes to me, but children as you say need guidance, support which I think is one of the biggest things, if they know you care and are their for them, they grow before your eyes. You don’t need the thank you it is in every fiber of their bodies, and later in life when you are there as a spectator, dinner or graduation as you say is a feeling we never forget. Loved this post,

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    • Awww, thanks so much, Brooke! Yes, I agree. Most of my teaching experience has been working with children who have far less than an ideal upbringing where their physical, emotional and mental needs were met. I am still working on finishing my Masters in MHC. One of my students said “Don’t worry, Ms., I’ll be there when you graduate.” And the tears came rolling 🙂 Thanks for reading. Have a great weekend.

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  • Wise words applicable to any relationship. Thank you for sharing and have a great weekend! 🙂


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