Collect moments not things.
Two years ago today this kid walked into the hospital and had a little brain surgery. It has been one of the most challenging things my son and I have ever had to endure. While we continue to battle this beast, I’ve learned some valuable lessons along this journey.
~ Children are always watching adults to see how they act, react in every situation.
~Never allow our fears or past mistakes to steal our joy and sense of humor in the present or moving forward.
~Learn how to communicate openly, honestly, calmly
~Look at every difficult situation with a growth mindset.
~Use our struggles/scars to help others where possible.
Never give up!💜
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach for another is to risk involvement.
To expose your ideas, your dreams,
before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To believe is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the
greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The people who risk nothing, do nothing,
have nothing, are nothing.
They may avoid suffering and sorrow,
but they cannot learn, feel, change,
grow, love, live.
Chained by their servitude they are slaves;
they have forfeited their freedom.
Only a person who risks is free.
My Grandpa was a cabbage and lettuce farmer and for many years as a young curious girl, I watched him work and helped him harvest the crops. There is nothing else he would have rather done. It was in his bones. I asked him one day if I could take a turn driving ‘Ole Blue’ as he called his rusty and reliable tractor. He responded, “Have you been paying attention? Yes Sir.”
Pulling his hankerchief from his pocket, he wiped the sweat off his brow, stepped down and said, “Well, get up there and give it a go.”
Like my Grandpa, many of us feel driven by a purpose or calling- to start our own business, become a life coach, create a blog, write a book, or get healthy. Or perhaps even wish to master the art of staying calm under pressure. Yep, a few of these are on my list too. So, how do we do this and meet with success?
There are four key factors in building bridges and accomplishing our goals:
1. Know the leaders/competitors
Seek out and study those in the industry and in life who have thrown themselves In the Arena and become champions in their field. What skill sets, resources and connections do they possess?
2. Be their customer/follower
Listen to their story. Pay attention to the characteristics and behaviors of those you wish to emulate. Demonstrate loyalty to their product and service and reciprocity is sure to follow.
3. Be their partner
True leaders want to see and help others succeed. What will your contributions be in this relationship? How can you help build them up?
4. Create your own niche
Be authentically You. Focus on your unique talents, skills, traits and passions . This is one of the most important tools needed in building bridges in both our professional and personal lives.
Here are a few of the leaders in their respective industries that I follow and partner with who encourage, motivate and greatly inspire me to step In the Arena in accomplishing my goals and reaching my dreams.
*Steven Pressfield– author of The War of Art, Turning Pro and The Legend of Bagger Vance- made into a major motion film starring Will Smith and Matt Damon. Pressfield offers invaluable wisdom and great insight on beating Resistance often disguised as our Muse.
*David Scott Mann–
Founder of Lead Strong – leadership coaching, author, real estate investor , mentor and veteran- Lt. Colonel(ret), Army Special Forces Green Beret. Scott’s expertise and skills extend well beyond the battlefield; training others to connect, succeed and leave deep tracks in this world through the power of storytelling. An Elite Leader like no other.
*Danny Ray Jr.– Contributing writer- Life Hack, and creator of Dream Big, Dream Often . Danny is a visionary and community leader both on and offline with a seemingly inexhaustible reserve for helping others recognize and reach their dreams. A dedicated servant and advocate for those whose lives have been impacted by Multiple Scerlosis. The world could use a few more Danny’s.
“Pay attention and give it a go” Grandpa
“The bird who dares to fall is the bird who learns to fly”
Have you ever wondered if those who post quotes on their social media sites actually read and truly live and believe in these quotes?
Are we posting them to inspire others or ourselves? Are they lashing out in anger, denial, crying out for help, griefing the death of a loved one or their favorite basketball team that didn’t make it into the final four of March Madness(no worries- mine is still in there- GO UNC!),- or deflecting upon others what we need to see or change within ourselves? Maybe our intentions are to bring about positive change in this world or open one another hearts and minds to a new perspective.
Perhaps it is all of these.
When scrolling through the other day, I came across this all too familiar quote and stopped to reflect on it. While idle gossip rarely serves any good purpose, there ARE plenty of good reasons to discuss people.
I discuss with my students Martin Seligman and people on campus who radiate positivity.
The children I mentor at the abuse shelter discuss who is being nice to them.
I discuss people who have inspired me to serve a purpose bigger than myself, pried opened my heart to the possibility of love again and those who share a mutual affection for nature.
I discuss great warriors, writers, teachers, coaches with my son.
What is important to keep in mind when scrolling through our social media feeds at lightening speed, is that we always have a choice of how we react and respond to it. If you use it to make you better, you’ll be a winner every time!