Miles and Scars

Two years ago today this kid walked into the hospital and had a little brain surgery. It has been one of the most challenging things my son  and I have ever had to endure. While we continue to battle this beast, I’ve learned some valuable lessons along this journey. 

~ Children are always watching adults to see how they act, react in every situation. 

~Never allow our fears or past mistakes to steal our joy and sense of humor in the present or moving forward.

~Learn how to communicate openly, honestly, calmly

~Look at every difficult situation with a growth mindset.

~Use our struggles/scars to help others where possible. 

Never give up!💜

Nature’s Arena

Risks…

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach for another is to risk involvement.

To expose your ideas, your dreams,

before a crowd is to risk their loss.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To believe is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

But risks must be taken, because the

greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The people who risk nothing, do nothing,

have nothing, are nothing.

 

They may avoid suffering and sorrow,

but they cannot learn, feel, change,

grow, love, live.

Chained by their servitude they are slaves;

they have forfeited their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

~Author Unknown

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Pisgah National Forest

How to Build Bridges in Business and in Life

My Grandpa was a cabbage and lettuce farmer and for many years as a young curious girl,  I watched  him work and helped him harvest the crops. There is nothing else he would have rather done. It was in his bones.  I asked him one day if  I could take a turn driving  ‘Ole Blue’ as he called his rusty and reliable tractor.   He responded, “Have you been paying attention?  Yes Sir.”IMG_0032

Pulling his hankerchief from his pocket, he wiped the sweat off his brow, stepped down and said,  “Well, get up there and give it a go.”

 Like my Grandpa, many of us  feel driven by a purpose or calling- to start our own business,  become a life coach, create a blog,  write a book,  or get healthy.  Or perhaps even wish to master the art of staying calm under pressure. Yep, a few of these are on my list too.  So, how do we do this and meet with success?  

There are four key factors in building  bridges and accomplishing our goals: 

1.  Know the leaders/competitors 

Seek out and study those in the industry  and in life who have thrown themselves In the Arena and become champions in their field. What skill sets, resources and connections do they possess?

2.  Be their customer/follower

Listen to their story. Pay attention to the characteristics and behaviors of those you wish to emulate. Demonstrate loyalty to their product and service and reciprocity is sure to follow.

3.  Be their partner

True leaders want to see and help others succeed. What will your contributions be in this relationship? How can you help build them up? 

4.  Create your own niche

Be authentically You.  Focus on your unique talents, skills, traits and passions . This is one of the most important tools needed in building bridges in both our professional and personal lives.

Here are a few of the leaders in their respective industries that I follow and partner with who encourage, motivate and greatly inspire me to  step  In the Arena  in accomplishing my goals and reaching my dreams.

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*Steven Pressfield author of The War of Art, Turning Pro and The Legend of Bagger Vance- made into a major motion film starring Will Smith and Matt Damon.  Pressfield   offers invaluable wisdom  and great insight on  beating Resistance often disguised as our Muse.

*David Scott Mann– 

Founder of Lead Strong  leadership coaching, author, real estate investor , mentor and veteran- Lt. Colonel(ret), Army Special Forces Green Beret.  Scott’s expertise and skills extend well beyond the battlefield; training others to connect, succeed  and leave deep tracks  in this world through the power of storytelling. An Elite Leader like no other.

*Danny Ray Jr.–  Contributing writer- Life Hack,  and creator of  Dream Big, Dream Often .   Danny is a visionary  and community leader both on and offline with a seemingly inexhaustible reserve for helping others recognize and reach their dreams. A dedicated servant and advocate for those whose lives have been impacted by Multiple Scerlosis. The world could use a few more Danny’s.

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“Pay attention and give it a go”  Grandpa 

 

 

Nature’s Arena

“The bird who dares to fall is the bird who learns to fly”

 

photo credit:original- White Ibis(Eudocimus albus), wading birds found along shore lines predominantly in southeast region of the United States, and Central America

Quotes and Pushbacks

Have you ever wondered if those who post quotes on their social media sites actually read and truly live and believe in these quotes?abe

 Are we posting them to inspire others or ourselves?  Are they lashing out  in anger,  denial, crying out for help, griefing the death of a loved one or their favorite basketball team that didn’t make it into the final four of March Madness(no worries- mine is still in there- GO UNC!),-  or  deflecting upon others what we need to see or change within ourselves? Maybe our intentions are to bring about positive change in this world or open one another hearts and minds to a new perspective.

Perhaps it is all of these.

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When scrolling through the other day, I came across this all too familiar quote and stopped to reflect on it.  While idle gossip rarely serves any good purpose, there ARE plenty of good reasons to discuss people.

I discuss with my students Martin Seligman and people on campus who radiate positivity.

The children I mentor at the abuse shelter discuss who is being nice to them.

I discuss people who have inspired me to serve a purpose bigger than myself, pried opened my heart to the possibility of love again and those who share a mutual affection for nature.

I discuss great warriors, writers, teachers, coaches with my son.

What is important to keep in mind when scrolling through our social media feeds at lightening speed, is that we always have a choice of how we react and respond to it.  If you use it to make you better, you’ll be a winner every time!

GO TARHEELS!!

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Who’s in Your Corner?

 

Have you ever felt like life keeps beating you down?  Been dealt a bad hand? Had your heartbroken? Fallen ill with no support? Or perhaps  hard financial times have knocked on your door more than once? The light that paves the way towards your dream has all but faded?

Yep, that’s what I thought…

 Me too.

Now think about a time  when you were able to jump over that hurdle, cross that bridge and win the fight or know someone who did.  How did you or they  do it?

Chances are, someone was in your corner and you had the will to get back up.  I used to think growing up and as a young adult that I could handle all of life’s challenges on my own.  Man, was I wrong!  Most often, it was lack of trust in others, my own pride and stubborn ways that kept me from accepting help or support- I. needed. no one.

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I finally came to my senses that the only way I could overcome my obstacles, serve a purpose other than myself  and strive to reach my dreams was two fold-  work hard and have a team of supportive people by my side. We are not alone in the fight.

This is not to say that everyone should throw the towel in  and rescue you from yourself and your troubles- struggle can bring tremendous personal growth.  This is never more true right now than with my teenage daughter who wants everyone to give and do everything for her(yes, the word entitlement comes to mind).  However, I am her Mickey- she just doesn’t realize it- yet!

Mickey was always there to push Rocky past the point of comfortable, work hard for what he wanted and move in a direction that not only led to wins in the ring but in life. In fact, most of the characters in the Rocky movies all played a different yet vital role in motivating him- especially his opponents- have you seen Ivan Drago?!Drago

This David and Goliath fight was not only to avenge Apollo’s death but more importantly it was a brilliant metaphor of how big life’s challenges can be- yet- if we have the will to win and the right people in our corner, we can be victorious.

 

 

You may be wondering how you find your Mickey?

Be one…

 

 

 

 

 

 

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